A couple of weeks ago I was struggling with the fear of launching my new website, blog and business and instead of just getting on with it, I felt really called to sit around in my lounge room and watch interviews by the great poet, and by poet, I mean singer, Chris Martin from the band, Coldplay. 😉
Back in 2003, my soon-to-be husband, at the time, was massively into what I could best describe as soft ‘Brit-rock’ – bands like Coldplay, Keane, Snow Patrol – you know the type. At the time I liked Coldplay’s single ‘Yellow’, but I had the impression (much like a few other people at the time) that Coldplay were just a bunch of miserable Brits. One day my husband came home all excited because his favourite band were coming to Melbourne – I’m embarrassed to admit that I was pretty quick to roll my eyes….for about a month whenever he mentioned them! I was telling people that I was going to the concert and even then, I was still rolling my eyes and claiming that I was ‘being dragged’ along.
Well, that concert was the best I’ve ever been to in my life! I’ve been to loads of concerts before (& since) for many other bands, but no-one has blown me away quite like Chris Martin and the guys from Coldplay. I love just how much they all put into the show (even back in 2003), but especially hearing Chris’s vocals ring out through the venue – it was truly incredible and a night I will always remember.
Seriously, though, what could I possibly learn from a singer?
What really struck me was the passion that all 4 of them have for the job they have been gifted with. It’s probably also what has disappointed me about a lot of other acts I’ve seen since. If I’ve paid good money to see a show, I want to know that the performers are fully into it and that’s something that Chris talks about and acknowledges in his interviews. For him, it’s about being grateful for the opportunity to share their music with other people and acknowledging that people have to battle traffic, parking, saving the money, etc just to get along to a show and he wants it to be an amazing experience for them every single time.
I feel the same when I think about the work that I’m now doing. I feel so grateful that I get to connect with beautiful people and share the message of health and self love. There’s a different energy that abounds when you’re doing what you truly love.
There was a time after I split up from my husband that I gave up listening to bands like Coldplay – I guess it brought back memories of happier times, which at that time I didn’t think I deserved to feel. Yes, I was the bitch that ended my marriage to one of the world’s nicest guys in the world for no other reason than the fact that I didn’t know myself well enough to work out what I really wanted in life. 8 years later, do I regret the decision? Actually, no, not at all – I recognise that I simply didn’t have the right tools to be able to do the inner work necessary at the time, but of course, I do regret the way that it ended and the hurt that it caused.
I’m a firm believer that we’re put on this earth to learn lessons and I’m grateful for the lessons learnt.
I’ve literally spent hours watching clips from interviews Chris Martin has done over the years. He seems so much more connected these days and so much happier. In one interview for Rolling Stone magazine, he mentioned that he had been given a book of Rumi poems by a friend when he was going through some particularly bad times and he mentioned a particular poem called ’The Guesthouse’. I decided to look it up and after a quick Google search, I found the poem which I’ve pasted for you below.
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.
Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
Everyday is a new day
More than just the poem, was the way in which Chris described how it helped him get through some pretty dark times and it was such a blissful reminder that everyone has bad times – it doesn’t matter who you are. You can be the lead singer of one of the biggest rock bands in the world, a blogger, a mum, or simply a human – at the end of the day we all have things that we’re working on. In this new age of social media, it’s easy to fall head first into the comparison game, but the truth is that you often don’t know what someone else is really going through.
I love where in the poem it talks about everyday being a new day and everyday new thoughts enter your mind. Rumi says we should invite them all in, as if your mind were a guesthouse – even the thoughts and emotions that we sometimes try to hide – the sadness, the loneliness and the depression – invite them all in as they all have something to teach us. It really is a beautiful reminder that life is what we choose to make it and we need to learn to accept all facets of ourselves.
So, that’s what I’ve been up to these past few weeks – inviting all of the emotions in and simply sitting with them. I’ll admit that it was more than uncomfortable to start with, but I can honestly say that it’s really helped me feel so much more connected to my true self and so much more appreciative of all the many great things I have in my life.
Last week I was annoyed at myself for not getting enough items ticked off my ‘to-do’ list and I felt a little silly for having sparked my inner 16 year old self by spending a little too much time idolising a singer, but today I’m just happy that I was able to learn something amazing. Who would have thought it would have come from the lead singer of one of the world’s biggest bands!
Cheers Chris Martin!
I want to hear from you! Have you ever learnt something great from somewhere that you least expected to? If so, pop it into the comments below, I’d really love to know!
As always, wishing you an amazing week!